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Are You Connected Yet Disconnected?

1 Sep
(Illustration: 5242 Miles)

The other day while wasting time…ummm, I mean, searching for networking opportunities on Facebook, a friend of mine made a status update that struck me, “Do you ever feel like you are so busy making small bits of communication (text, email, Facebook) but never really connecting?

Yes, yes, and YES!


For someone of a certain age, like me, we know what it’s like to grow up without Twitter, Facebook, and YouTube. Most of our friendships we made in the physical world, not so much the cyber world. That means we shared experiences that are etched into our memories. I was reading a blog by some psychologist dude on SFGate.com about how technology disconnects us from living life. There was an interesting quote by a reader, “Face to face interaction creates more than communication. It creates memories. How many discernable and memorable instant messaging sessions or Facebook discussions can you remember with your ‘friends’?” Interesting question.

A blog I was reading puts some of this being so connected that you feel disconnected stuff into perspective. The author, Rhett Smith, who is a therapist and pastor, writes about his struggles with technology as it relates to human relationships. He says it feels like technology compresses our relationships into a cool, convenient process that has disconnected us from how humans, up until recently, form relationships. As my kids get older, I see more of this among their group of friends, which is scary. Very scary.

The social networking phenomenon (and blogging) has allowed us to “connect” with people from all over the world. People we call friends, but we’ve never actually met them. We’ve never hugged them, shared a meal with them, or visited the places that define who they are. Yet, in some cases, like mine, these people do become part of your life. So there is connection, just a different kind.

And all this connectivity, social networking, and over-sharing (a friend on Facebook uses this term) has created some problems of it’s own. Addiction to being “connected.” Another blogger, Catherine White, writes about it in a post called, “For Whom the iPhone Tolls.” She talks about how the Internet and devices like the iPhone, are interfering with people’s lives. Feeling the need to check email every ten minutes, logging onto Facebook to see what others have said about your status, or Tweeting about your every move. (I do it too.) 


Do you feel like you are consumed with updating all your online activities, yet avoiding connections with the people you live with? 


Do you have more online friends you’ve never actually met than those you interact with face-to-face on a daily basis?


Do you constantly check your cell phone for updates to what’s going on “out there” rather than checking to see what’s going on with your family (okay, I’ll give you this one because my family is kinda annoying)?


If you answered yes to any of these questions (or all of them), then slowly step away from the computer or put your cell phone down, go outside and greet someone face-to-face and attempt to connect yourself to the human race.


I think I will after I Tweet about this post.

Is Blogging Dead?

18 Mar

Since Facebook and Twitter, many folks out there are predicting the end of blogging as we know it. I say, NAY! I say we’ll all be back after we’ve come down from our FarmVille high, or our iHeart binge, or we get sick of Ashton Kutcher’s stupid tweets.

Anywhooooo…I still love Blogging although I have neglected my poor little blog as of late. I think it’s going to run away and join the circus or something. I promise I will feed and love you, blog. I promise!!

First, I have to:

1) Actually do work.
2) Eat sometimes.
3) Take a shower (working from home means this is completely optional).
4) Check Facebook.
5) Listen to my MIL ramble on about her bladder problems (yes, she’s visiting and I’m a good daughter in-law, I always appear to be listening).
6) Go to the bathroom.
7) Make something that resembles dinner (do Goldfish crackers count as a food group?)
8) Check Facebook.
9) Tweet about the headache my MIL will give me.
10) Text The Hubby and find out when he’s coming home to relieve me from the MIL.
11) Play with the kids (the only thing that saves me from loosing my sanity).
12) Greet The Hubby then hand him off to MIL.
13) Give the kids a bath and put them to bed.
14) Check Facebook then update my status.
15) Tweet my Facebook status.
16) Get ready for my business meeting in SF tomorrow.
17) Say goodnight to The Hubby and the MIL.
18) Check Facebook.
19) Wash my face and brush my teeth.
20) Lie awake in bed until 1pm then fall asleep.

When I’m done with all of that, I will blog. I swear!

A Message to the Blogosphere

21 Oct


Truly, I’m sorry for neglecting you. You have been my creative outlet for so long, I didn’t mean to take you for granted. I just developed this obsession with Facebook and this damn FarmVille game. I can’t let my crops wither and die! Or let my cows go without milking. My poor pigs need tending to, you know!

I guess I needed a meaningless fling to distract me from writing. That’s why I started this blog, to write every day because my dream of finishing my book would never happen if I didn’t write every day. The truth is, I do write every day but stuff that someone else tells me to write. Okay, okay, I get paid for it and writing my book is an unpaid activity that may come to nothing in the end. It’s hard to prioritize sometimes. So what do I do? Play a stupid online farm game. Yup, that’s me.

Well, I’m writing here today and boy, is it riveting. NOT! I just wanted to let the blogosphere know that I’ll be back with something…and of course, it will be totally random.

Tweeting Your Twit

27 Apr


Do you tweet? Want to know what your twit is doing? Do you even care?

Of course, I’m talking about the ever-popular Internet craze for people with OCD: Twitter!

Now there’s a book about this thing for all of you dim-witted twits! You can learn how to get the most of your tweeting. Stand out on Twitter so that stalkers can easily find you. Avoid Twitter gaffs! OMG! And use it as a way to connect with people without the hassle of getting infected by their germs!

The Twitter Book will help even totally lame people get up to speed quickly!

So stop worrying about meeting people in person and having a relationship that involves your vocal cords and start tweeting your twit now!!

And now, I’d like to thank my writing buddy, awesome blogger, and amazing Mom, Meleah, for this prestigious award:

“The blogger who receives this award believes in the Tao of the zombie chicken: excellence, grace and persistence in all situations, even in the midst of a zombie apocalypse. These amazing bloggers regularly produce content so remarkable that their readers would brave a raving pack of zombie chickens just to be able to read their inspiring words. As a recipient of this world-renowned award, you now have the task of passing it on to at least 5 other worthy bloggers. Do not risk the wrath of the zombie chickens by choosing unwisely or not choosing at all.”

In an effort to appease zombie chickens, I would like to pass this award onto the following bloggers:

Anonymous Boxer
MJ
Donn
Bob
Cece

All hail zombie chickens!!!

I Really Dislike Facebook

19 Nov


I’m not at the point where I hate Facebook, but I’m getting there.

I noticed that I started getting a HUGE amount of spam in my email box whenever I’m active on Facebook. Coincidence? I think not!

Too many people from my past keep wanting to add me as their friend and then they send me messages asking me, “How do I know you?” If you’re gonna add me as a friend, you’d better know me first dumb ass! Besides, I don’t WANT to know you anymore.

All of the ads on Facebook are about hooking up with someone or finding a date. What about married people? We don’t want a date, we just want something to take our attention away from our boring or nagging spouse. Nice.

Whoever designed it is an addict, or used to be one. I can waste a few hours on that site and enter some kind of time warp and I end up thinking, “What the hell happened to the time?” It’s highly addicting and frankly, there are too many other addictions in my life. I don’t need another one, thank you very much.

There is one other reason why I am starting to not like Facebook…and he already knows about it.

Stupid Facebook.

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