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Old Sayings We Should Probably Bring Back

9 Oct

To Thine Own Self Be TrueThose old sayings we used to hear our grandparents tell us while we rolled our eyes were more than nonsense muttered in frustration at impatient youth. They were like directional signs to guide us on the road whenever we get lost (or lazy). I did a quick Google to see what the Internet thinks about 21st Century sayings, and here’s what I found:

“Been there, done that.”
“It’s a no brainer.”
“Talk to the hand.”
“What’s the worst that can happen?”

Adages and Sayings Are a Sign of the Times, My Friends

I’m sure there are many more sayings from modern times that are…well, stupid. Can’t you just hear Lindsay Lohan saying, “Whatever?” She’s sitting in the street, her hair all raggedy, and she’s trying to find her bottle of tequila. What about the tweens on Disney Channel who think they are all that and a bag of potato chips saying, “What’s the worst that can happen?” while they drop out of high school to become rock stars. Yeah, everyone is gonna be a rock star, baby.

Where Did All Those Wise Sayings Go?

Have we lost our minds? What happened to the wisdom we used to tap into from generations who have “been there, done that?” Will our kids learn some of those tried and true characteristics that made America great? Work hard. Be honest. Treat people like you want to be treated. I think we should probably bring back old sayings like these:

“To thine own self, be true!”

This one could be a big help now to all those poor teenagers who are grappling with their sexuality in a horrendous environment where bullies push them to suicide.

“Worthwhile things are not always easily achieved.”
Sorry to be the one to break it to you, but you can’t get something for nothing. You’ve got to work at it, even when people are telling you to quit. We need more people who are so passionate about what they do, nothing will stop them.

“Don’t expect things on a silver platter.”
Lindsay should have listened to this one. Poor Lindsay.


Taking a Shot

8 Mar

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” A quote from Wayne Gretzky that I’ve often relied on whenever I’m about to do something that puts me outside my comfort zone. I’m not a huge hockey fan, but I could relate to this quote because I often never tried anything new because I was afraid of failing. Isn’t that stupid? How do you even know if you don’t at least try?

Well, I’m going to try something. I’m going to enter one of my essays in the Writer’s Digest Annual Writing Competition. And I’m urging all of YOU to try something you’ve never tried before along with me. It could be ice skating, painting, rock climbing, singing, skiing…whatever. Something you’ve always wanted to do but never have because you were afraid to fail.

DO IT! Then, write a post about it after you did it. Were you afraid? How did you overcome the fear? Did it work out how you wanted it to? I’ll do the same with my writing submission and maybe…just maybe we’ll have some fun. Sound good?

If not, there’s always this.

Why are you here?

16 Feb

No one realizes it or practices it because it’s hard. One of the most difficult things to do is to accept someone who thinks differently than you, who may do things you don’t approve of, or who may live their lives in a way you don’t agree with.

Perhaps that’s why we’re here…

To learn how to love and accept each other, no matter what. Most of us are not doing a very good job at it. Is there a possibility that we can see past our own ideologies, past our own selfish desires, past our cultural beliefs, past greed or lust or hatred, past our fears?

You cannot give what you do not have. It’s a conscious decision you must make every day, every minute, every second of your life. Learn who you are, what your strengths and weaknesses are then accept yourself. Love yourself, even if no one ever has. Perhaps you will see how much we all need it and you want to give it to other people. Help people love themselves. Help them love each other. We need this.

Am I Causing All This Chaos?

14 Dec

I had an epiphany this weekend. No, I didn’t hurt myself or anybody else but I realized something that was so obvious, if it was a poisonous snake I would have been dead a long time ago.

I AM THE REASON, or more specifically THE WAY I THINK is the reason why I have problems with anxiety, panic attacks, and Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS). *cue Handel’s “Hallelujah Chorus”*

For so long I’ve been searching for the reason why I have these issues either by going to 10,000 doctors or specialists, researching what foods cause me problems, getting acupuncture, chanting mantras, buying herbal remedies, reading 5,001 self-help books…you name it, I’ve tried it. To some degree, these things work for a while but then the problems start all over again. I have wasted so much money, time, and effort on “solving” this problem you would be bored out of your mind if I told you about it all.

It was so weird how it hit me too. My daughter had her BFF spend the night for the first time on Saturday. Everything went fine and they were actually very well behaved. On Sunday morning, the two girls were playing and my son joined them in being pirates looking for treasure. There were toys strewn about, dirty laundry piled up in bins next to the washer and dryer, the entry had wet leaves all over the floor because it was raining and The Hubby kept going in and out to do something, then he pulled out old photo albums from the cupboards in the office and flung them about. I was okay until my son started whining that his sister left him all alone when she and her friend pulled out a scarf and started a loud game of “tug-o-war.” Screaming ensued. Suddenly, I felt the need to clean everything and get the kids under control. I began picking up toys then yelled at the kids to be quiet. I went into the office to shout at The Hubby and ask him why the hell he decided at that moment to rearrange the photo albums. I started a load of laundry. Then I pulled out the vacuum cleaner. This all happened within minutes. And did I feel in control? No. I had the feeling that rabid squirrels were competing for the last nut on the planet in my stomach. Not good.

The kids and The Hubby looked at me like I had lost my mind. I turned to them and said, “Can I get some help here!?” Then they scrambled in separate directions hurrying to get away from the crazy lady with the vacuum. I stopped for a minute and thought to myself, what just happened here? I realized that nothing had really changed. There were still toys everywhere, the wet leaves in the entry, the old photo albums…it was a little quieter but the only thing that really changed was my reaction or perception of these things. I ran back through my thoughts just before I went insane…it is waaaay too chaotic in here! I’d better get control or something bad is going to happen. If I can’t control this, something even worse is going to happen! I have to stop it now!!! Those exact thoughts run through my mind every time I have an anxiety attack or an IBS attack.

In that moment, I knew that I have been causing all the anxiety in my life AND anxiety for my family, which only begets more anxiety. The Hubby and I end up annoyed with each other or arguing who is right…and it gets worse. The kids realize we are arguing and they get all agitated. Then I sometimes have to blow up or leave. It all started with my thoughts.

Now, I have no idea how to go about changing those thoughts because they are as familiar to me as my own hands. I guess the first step is that I’ve realized when they start and that’s something, right?

In Transition

13 Apr

Wow! Thanks everyone for your support and positive vibes!

I am making drastic changes, but I’m already feeling better. Here are a few things I’ve learned in the four days I’ve been doing this:

1. It is HARD to find food without gluten. It’s in everything that most people crave: wheat, breads, starches. The first few days without bread was TOUGH!

2. Sugar is in EVERYTHING. That includes the ever-present HIGH FRUCTOSE CORN SYRUP.

3. REAL food is good! I had no idea how good fruits and vegetables could be until I started doing this.

4. Nuts like almonds, walnuts, cashews, and pumpkin seeds fill you up. I only need a few handfuls and they satisfy my hunger.

5. I actually do feel more clear in the head and feel like I can focus better.

The program I’m following is a six-week plan in the book: The Ultra Mind Solution. It was developed by a doctor who suffered from depression, anxiety, and chronic illnesses. I saw him on public television and decided to try it. The book is really good because it educates you on how important good nutrition is to your brain and body…especially your mood.

I’ll keep you all updated on my progress, including any slip ups I have and things I’ve learned. My hope is that maybe this will help some of you too.

I know I haven’t been very funny lately so here’s an animated video you can watch while I’m working on my funny bone: We Couldn’t Get Much Higher. Sorry, I couldn’t figure out how to embed it…

A New Journey

10 Apr

I decided to title this post like I did after reading Boxer’s comments. She is right. I am on a new journey.

My goal is to be Paxil-free in one year.

I have cut out dairy, gluten, sugar, and caffeine from my diet…that means GOODBYE STARBUCKS. You have NO IDEA how hard it is to write those words. I was sooooo addicted to my Mochas and Lattes.

I am also only eating REAL FOOD. By that I mean fruits, veggies, and organic meats and wild fish. As I read in the great book, “In Defense of Food” if my Grandmother wouldn’t recognize it as food, I’m not eating it (and neither is my family). I had no idea how hard it is find real food and how frickin’ expensive it is too! I’ll be broke but at least I’ll be off my brain drugs. Thank GOD though for Farmer’s Markets. They’re WONDERFUL!!!

I am taking high-grade supplements, including Omega-3s with DHA and EPA (again NOT cheap!). I am also meditating and doing yoga. It’s tough to get in a good work out with kids and a part-time job but I intend to add some kind of sweat-inducing work out too (does sex count?? ha ha ha!)

I’m going to get a good acupuncturist too. Again, kind of expensive.

Before I go on…have you noticed that all the stuff that is really good for you is out-of-control expensive? Why is that? Do the rich people not want us working stiffs to get healthy so they can hog all the good stuff for themselves??? I wonder.

But, I digress…

I’ve always tried to be funny, sarcastic, and avoid talking about my brain problems here but they have consumed me lately. This is why my posts have been kind of stupid. Really. You can tell me that my posts have been lame. I won’t cry…

Anyway, I’m on a new path. I’ve even asked the Hubby to help keep me on this one because I think it’s the right way to get off Paxil. I am sick of being a slave to this drug and sick of my ups and downs. I know I won’t ever be healed completely but I can take my brain back into my own hands.

Here’s to my new brain!!!!!!!!

Chemical Imbalance

8 Apr

I am one of the millions of suffers from a basic chemical imbalance in my brain. I have low serotonin levels and am prone to panic attacks, depression, and have problems focusing. Most people in my life know this about me and they still love me somehow. A lot of you don’t know that about me so I’m telling you right now.

I have been taking Paxil for almost 16 years and believe that I’m starting to see symptoms of long-term use that are frankly quite freaky. I wake up in the middle of the night and my whole body goes cold then a wave of heat begins up my spine. Then I can’t walk very well. My body gets stiff and my muscles start to twitch violently. When those symptoms subside, I suddenly feel like I need to jump out of my skin. I can’t stop pacing back and forth. It’s like I have to move or I’ll die.

I’ve also been reading stuff about this drug that make me wonder how it ever got introduced to the general public in the first place. All of this has prompted me to take a look at my life style and try to change some things so that I can be around when my kids get older.

I’m tired of all the ups and downs. I’m tired of the racing thoughts. I’m tired of the panic. I’m tired of the obsessive/compulsive routines. I’m tired of being me sometimes.

I want to be able to accept these cards that I’ve been dealt and manage it much better than I have been doing.

Sorry this post seems to be meandering around my chemically imbalanced brain-o-sphere. I really have no idea what I’m trying to say here. I just know that what I’ve been doing so far is not working. I’ve got to try something different…again.

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